Children's cruelty: who is to blame and what to do
Cruelty belongs to men, for millions of years, it was necessary for the survival and strengthening of the species. Heritage primitive ancestors sometimes makes itself felt, particularly such behavior is peculiar to children. Only education and constant role model enables the child to subdue and control their aggressive feelings and instincts.
Adults can control your emotions, and children do not yet know how. Some brutality characteristic of all children, it is a certain stage of maturity. Unconscious children's cruelty with time passes. But when a teenager intentionally hurt another person, it is an occasion to experience and adopt educational measures. The most important cause of child cruelty is cruelty significant adults. In the eyes of a child older brother kicked the cat, mat father cursed opponent on the road, replied my mother disapproved of neighbors, parents find out the relationship using a battering. A young child tend to repeat the actions of adults. Problems of child cruelty is not in families where relationships are based on love and mutual respect. When parents give the baby to communicate with plenty of time to answer his questions, they show an example of friendly relations and the child is unlikely to emerge the desire to behave differently. Children living in dysfunctional families, orphanages, boarding schools, are often subject to aggressive influence of elders. A child deprived of parental affection, young one grows up, he does not know how to behave in a different way. He had never seen compassion, and therefore can not empathize with others. Television, the Internet full of negative information that promotes violence. All sorts of "shooter" causing indifference to the suffering of others. Under the influence of these factors blunted feelings, problem solving becomes the norm power. Fully protect children from harmful information on these sources is practically impossible, few who can constantly monitor the child. To not have to keep track of a child is much more effective from an early age to educate him the ability to take responsibility for their actions, soberly evaluate them. Such training should ensure that parents, school, books, movies, as well as the ideology of the state. Another reason for the children's aggressiveness - permissiveness. Blind love for the child often prevents parents to evaluate his actions correctly. They stand up in any situation to his side, strengthening the child at the thought of impunity. This position leads to the fact that the teenager is completely out of control and become dangerous for the parents themselves. Cruelty can appear as a result of mental disorders. In this case, escape from the destructive aggression only with help of a specialist. The main goal of parents - to help your child become more humane. We must not forget that the aggressive behavior - a natural and easiest reaction to irritants. Therefore, it is not necessary to eradicate "wild" pulses, and try to teach the child to cope with them, transforming aggression into more acceptable feelings. To do this, first of all, you must grasp the concept of the value of human life. Surround the child's love and attention and instill moral values by example, do not allow physical punishment. Correctly monitor your child's circle of communication, his interests, he looks and reads. Write it in the sports section, where the child will be able to give energy output and will be able to peacefully assert themselves.