How to bring the will in children
How is the human will, and at what age you can cultivate strong-willed qualities of the baby? This question is very important for anyone who has children and who want to grow their bold, persistent and mature people. In turn, the will - this is not an innate human quality. A child is not born with ready-made strong or weak will, it can not be inherited. Such quality is formed in the process of educating the child.
Instruction how to raise children will
If a child is always surrounded by excessive tutelage of adults, and it does not have to exert any effort to achieve a desired, it is unlikely that the child will grow out of such a person with persistent allegations and strong character.
Sometimes parents say: "Well, what else can you expect from a three year old child? After all, he is still very young and did not understand anything. That's when he grows up, then we will ask". However, this is a wrong judgment. Require the baby, of course, only within the limits of its possibilities, it is necessary from a very early age, starting with the moment when the baby begins to understand speech, addressed to him, and he seizes it.
This will mature - this is a very mature performance. Naturally, in this case one can not speak of the will quite yet a small child to understand, which is embedded in the value of a mature faith in an adult. However, we can talk about the beginnings of the manifestations of the will, even in young children. These beginnings are expressed: - in the presence of a child a certain desire to achieve goals; - In the preservation of this goal, despite the delay or distractions; - The ability to delay or postponement of his desire, that is patience; - The ability to overcome their reluctance to achieve the goal.
In order to develop these inclinations must be in child care to adhere to certain rules. In the first place should be set a specific mode of the day and schedule to ensure that the child knew exactly how, when, and what he should do: get up, walk, eat, go to bed, wash your hands before eating, before going to bed to clean toys. This teaches the child to accuracy and thereby contributes to the development of strong-willed traits of his character.
Adults should always be very honest with the child, that is, always keep your word. After all, often it happens: to comfort the kid, he promises a lot - and buy toys and play to your phone, and on a swing ride. In this case, the child stops crying or capricious, but expects the promise. Adults immediately forget about his promise, and sometimes do not perform it. As a result, the child gets used to not believe the promises of the parents. And he learns easily make certain promises, and then do not execute them. At the same time he is not brought up the responsibility for their words. On the contrary, it begins to develop irresponsibility and lack of will.
Gradually on bringing in the child's ability to master their own desires, feelings, teach him to hold back, to win their feelings of fear, pain and resentment. All this strengthens and trains his will.