How to build a relationship with the child
Many parents are concerned with questions of how to build a relationship with the child, they do not make mistakes that can have serious problems? An understanding of child psychology helps to establish good contact with the child and prevents the occurrence of difficulties in communicating with adolescents, and adults.
Instruction how to build a relationship with the child
Pay attention to your child! Of course, we, the adults, are so many relevant and important matters. But do not bring the situation to the fact that the child's time left. This is a very negative impact on the child's psyche. Negative emotions will be delayed in the subconscious mind and always remind myself in the future.
Trust. The child constantly hears: "no", "quiet", "Slow down!" Why? Because it is too small and does not understand much. And thus we program his life: "Do not believe the world does not live in full force." How often do we say the phrase: "Do not bother, I'll do it myself." But it is also hidden, programming, the message: "I doubt in you!". It is better to say: "I believe you, I believe that you can." Treat your child with respect and trust. Help him to learn something, to learn something, to know the world.
Independence. Mothers complain children are taking our time. Why? Because many parents control every step of the children at all interfering. Better not to disturb her child. It is something enthusiastically engaged, it is interesting and important! Think about your feelings when you detach from the interesting and important case. So give him more freedom. For it is useful, but you have time to relax.
Help. Help, of course, necessary. That's just what sense do you mean by the word "help"? Remember: to help - is to fulfill the request. And if the child does not ask, then, and do not need help. Here collects child machine, and does not work. Mom tired of looking at it, she quickly adds structure and the baby angrily breaks it again and begin collecting. Before assist, ask whether your participation is necessary.
Do not say "top-down" with the child. If you want to talk to, especially on a serious topic, sit down, bend over so that you were on the same level, look at the baby's eyes.
Do not criticize your child, do not express complaints to him. If he did something wrong, explain what it is, tell us about the consequences of the offense. Best option: Praise the children for a small victory for their own work done, etc. But everything is good in moderation.
Talk to your child about their feelings. Even if the negative emotions. Kid will feel your status in your eyes, gestures, posture. If you need to point out that the child is something wrong, do not say the phrase: "You're wrong," "You're doing it on purpose, out of spite," etc. Share your better feelings about the incident and explain why they occur.
And most importantly - a glimpse of the light of your expectations real and individual personality of the child, let him be himself and just love it.