How to deal with a teenager who does not live at home
Situations when a teenager does not live at home, and occasionally escapes from parents, child psychologists consider protective reaction to an unfavorable home atmosphere for him. To solve this problem, you need to understand the causes and eliminate them escape.
Instruction how to deal with a teenager who does not live at home
In the process of identifying the reasons for not hysterics, do not threaten or use force against a child. Many parents mistakenly believe that if a child hiding things and everywhere accompany it, it will stop running away from home. This pressure will only strengthen their desire for an independent life.
Consider that in recent years has changed family relations. Often the cause of teenage runaways become parents' divorce or the emergence of a new family member. When the child no longer pay due attention, it looks for it on the side.
Make him comfortable home. Lost contact to establish a partnership and trust communication. Ask for advice, even if it feels a full and equal member of the family, which has some responsibility for it.
The cause of the child's escape may be a need for attention or demands execution of any desires, a new computer, phone, etc. The purpose of such demonstration shoots - to be found and returned, ie in such a way to attract attention to their needs. Taken seriously all the requests of the child, do not ignore his attempts to share with you my feelings. If you can not fulfill his request, find the right words to explain, but in no case do not "dismiss" them. Teens all adults perceive the word literally.
In some cases, the child does not wish to live with their parents can cause the usual boredom daily routine. Due to the nature of adolescence the child feels the need to try your hand, be on a par with adults. Organize joint leisure, but not a shopping trip or a trip to the country. Find fun on the verge of an extreme: jump with a parachute, Alloy on the river, and loans to other types of tourism, which is required to show their endurance and stamina and physical strength. There's a child, overcoming difficulties, can test themselves and understand the danger of uncontrolled experiments with his life.
Escape as an imitation of the hero of the film or the novel can be realized in the event that the child often hears from parents that at his age, someone involved in the fighting, was left without parents, and feeding the family, etc. Those. if a teenager compared to the more independent people of his age, it might make him a desire to prove that it is not worse. Avoid such statements, they are not going to benefit the educational process, rather the contrary.
Overprotective or, conversely, excessive pressure also contribute to the escape of the child from the parents. Give it a certain degree of freedom: he is entitled to their personal space and the things that belong to him alone. You can not bring a child into this difficult age of high and unrealistic demands, for example, be always ahead of everyone in the school, in sports and other classes. And even more - you can not severely punish him for failure of certain requirements.
Sometimes the reason that the teenager does not live at home, can be a neurological disease, such as epilepsy. If you try to create comfortable conditions for the child, and he continues to run away from home, consult a neurologist. And if you can not determine the cause of the shoots, consult a psychologist.