How to grow a leader
Not everyone has the leadership qualities and wants to be a leader. Parents need to understand it and, if they grow quiet and unassuming child with a calm temperament, do not try to change it. The main task of every parent - to educate a person who believes in himself and knows his own worth. And, although self-esteem is formed throughout a person's life, since the birth of the baby is necessary to follow certain rules.
Instruction how to cultivate leadership
From the very first days of life of the child listen to it. Learn to understand the meaning of his requests, do not ignore his crying, respond to his smile and babble. The kid needs to know that he came to the friendly world, where his love and his considered opinion. Show your love no matter what, even if you are tired or upset by his behavior. This will be the basis of his self-confidence.
Do not compare the child with other children and do not criticize. You can condemn his actions, but do not criticize him. For example, if something is inadvertently broken or broke, instead of punishing him, together, try to correct the damage. The habit of immediately correct his mistake will help in the future life is much more than a willingness to self-abasement.
It would seem that the more the child allow - the more he believes in himself. But accustomed to do everything that I want, not recognizing limits, in principle, the child fails to behave appropriately in the adult world. Set the frame for him, but let the constraints at once will not be much. Enter your contract with the new baby "impossible" gradually. Start with the sore, for example: "Toys have other children did not take away more girls do not beat."
Allow your child to help you, fold the laundry in the washing, remove the dried stuff, etc. Praise him, even if he does something embarrassing. Kid will feel that his help appreciate and gladly want to help you more.
Do not laugh at a child. Especially in public. There is nothing more humiliating. Especially if it's native people laugh, which he used to trust. Do not tell the kid when his blunders, how he mixed up the right boot with the left. This can cause the child to forget about trying to dress himself. He is afraid to make a mistake again and look ridiculous.
Teach him to the freedom of choice, do not solve all of the child. Let the kid sometimes chooses what he put on his hat, what to eat for breakfast, with whom and what to play. Then he will learn to make decisions and to act himself.
Encourage him, if he has something does not work. Try to instill in him the confidence that he can. In a difficult situation, your words are remembered and will help him.
In dealing with a child, minimize use phrases like these: "Do not run, you will fall! Do not touch it, you will break! ". Let him buy his own experience.
Do not ask the child is impossible, do not rush it. If he hesitates to recite poetry in kindergarten celebration, do not insist. After all, if excited, he forgets the words - it can permanently discourage his desire for public speaking. Let him speak first in the family, and only then, having found self-confidence, will be released on the "big stage."
Praise it. In dealing with the future personalities, self-confident, you need a special language. Note: not "incomprehensible scribbles" - and "alien pet". Emphasizes that what he is doing - good. When the baby has finished drawing, ask to hang picture on the wall in his room. And in the end give advice for the future: "Do not you think that it is better to hold the line colors and does not spread them around the sheet?"
Build a positive image of their parents. Never say, "You are" so-so ", all in the father!" Or mother. If parents will compliment each other, my mother say, "You're a smart, just like your father!", And his father noticed: "You're a hard-working, full of my mother" - the kid certainly understand that such wonderful parents can only be a wonderful child.
Loving parents - not the only people whose opinion will have to face the child. Therefore evaluate its progress adequately and as objectively as possible. Suppose he really understands the forces, he knows what he does not. Teach him not to give up and keep trying. Do not play "adoring parents," so that your child does not depend on other people's opinions. Belief in yourself - it is also the ability to develop on their own, without seeking the approval of others.