What if the child - «Nehochuha»
"I do not want these boots! I do not want to play the piano! " How often do you hear from your child these words? It is necessary to understand the causes of such behavior and to realize that insisting on the need to do things that are hard to understand a little child, parents are not always right ...1. Do we have adequate in their claims? For a child it is important to defend their opinions. Listen to him. For example, you ask and need to remove the first game to start the next series, and the baby is another idea: he intends to unite them and to continue to play with the new longer, they made up. Spores in this case is inevitable. He will protest against your decision and to defend their own, in this case it is necessary to ask him the question "why?". Perhaps it will be quite weighty arguments and you will change your point of view. Do not be afraid of this. 2. Selection of the parents or the child? Until now, many parents, and professionals have a different approach to this issue. Of course, the parent will have a place to be, and even if the choice of parents is justified by the fact that these professions can be useful in the future, and the child does not understand why he should deal with these incomprehensible things, you always have to overcome the resistance. It is possible to assume such a solution (if you still insist on his). If the child is doing well, then the choice of parents is justified. It has the ability, and activity is to invest efforts. If the minor successes, then the child has no desire, and, perhaps, necessary qualities. The hardest part - to evaluate the ability, if they emerged with the help of the child should be helped to develop them. 3. Who loves orders? Do you like when you ordered? What would you say if they heard in his address: "Lay on a plate more liquid dishwashing. The one-and-a washable better see dirt remains! ". In the best case, if your emotional state will remain the same, you say: "If you know the best, that's do it!" Many children, like adults, do not like indications. They can, and are ready to lay a bed and wash the dishes and do the lessons themselves, but the state suppresses their parents irritation, and they begin to be obstinate. Avoid criticism, until the case is not satisfied. 4. Stand on his! It is necessary to take into account the psychological 2 period, when the child is ready to defend his opinion. The first - a "crisis of three years." "I do not want" just because he can not accept the fact that he offered to parents. This is the time of quenching character, so just be patient. The second wave - adolescence (adolescence), while determining their place in society. The child should be given more independence and the opportunity to make at least part of the decision itself. In this case, the teenager is responsible for them and argue with their parents only in matters of principle, and a significant amount of stupid quarrels and whims will disappear with time.