Why is obedience does not bring happiness
Parents often turn to doctors with complaints that their kid is too stubborn, moody or aggressive. But almost none of them do not worry because too quiet and obedient child. While many psychologists say that an obedient child - it's not always a good thing.
Of course, very easy to communicate with such a good kid and hassle-free, but you need to understand what is due to his obedience. Perhaps this is a manifestation of the innate phlegmatic temperament, upbringing, but it is possible that this behavior is stimulated. It is necessary to observe how the child behaves in conflict situations. It is very important to be able to adequately respond to experiences, cope with negative emotions. If a child is afraid or does not know how to express them, they accumulate, there is internal aggression which weakens health. Such children tend to get sick a lot, they have a weak immune system. Heading into the disease, obedient children punished himself for "bad" thoughts. Many parents are proud obedient and well-mannered child. At the same time they do not think about it later in life. Subdue and suppress the child, they provide a tranquil life. Obedience often turns into passivity and inability to find his place in life. From the modern human activity is required, leadership, strong personality. He should be able to make decisions, take risks, show initiative. In this overly obedient child is not able to. Due to the lack of his own position, he easily becomes an object of manipulation of others. Obedience can lead to all sorts of dependencies. Care in alcoholism, drug addiction or a sect becomes very real for depression and a depressed teenager. The child should have the right to express negative emotions. We need to teach him adequately express negative feelings, talk about it. Parents do not need to be afraid to show himself such emotions as anger, irritation, resentment, but to do it without humiliation and insults. It must be remembered that it is impossible to raise an obedient child of any artist needs. To be successful, it must be able to defend their opinions.