How to punish a child for disobedience
Developing and growing up, each child gradually becomes acquainted with the world around him and learns the rules of existence in it. One of the objectives of education - to help the child to understand the scope of what can not go and why. In this way we have to put restrictions on the form of punishment.How to make the punishment was not just "payback" for a bad deed, and a lesson for the future and the way to correct the damage caused? To resort to punishment as little as possible, you should try to prevent the undesirable situation. To this end, should: • explain to your child why it is impossible to do so and the opportunity to demonstrate the results of disobedience; • Explain that there is a categorical prohibition forever (can not run out on the road) and the time (now very cold, can not walk, but when it gets warmer, we'll go up the hill); • rules should apply to all, not only to the child (brushing teeth and washing hands should be all) and always; • must take into account the age (the requirements for preschool children and adolescents should be different). But if you have to resort to punishment, that: • it should be done quietly, not in anger. Breathe deeply several times, tell yourself: "Calm!", And then proceed; • for various offenses - various cars. The penalty for that neighbor language indicated and that throwing packets from the balcony, can not be the same; • punishment should meet the age. Preschooler sees time not as an adult, and it is useless to punish after noon, for the same normal teenager would postpone the analysis of the situation until the evening. Two-three-year-long could not stand or sit in a corner quietly, so he has enough three to five minutes of angle. What forms of punishment are permitted: • punitive operation (remove scattered debris, wash the wall ornamented); • story for the kid with the heroes who commit similar offenses and analyzing "why not" and "how to"; • Insulation (corner chair); • deprivation pleasant (computer, sweets); • self-punishment (will shed the cold water); • cry and stern voice (also a necessary measure to prevent children have ceased to respond); • a stern look; • explanation (when the offense committed for the first time, and the child does not understand what it wrong). There are adults who believe that the only effective punishment - physical. But experience suggests otherwise. Physical punishment is unacceptable, so how to: • with the time threshold is reduced and the child does not respond to anything, except for a belt; • The child is trying any way to avoid punishment (lying, hiding the diary, hiding from their parents); • considers the cruelty of the norm and solves all the issues with their fists; • Child-choleric not accept the punishment and try to "make change". No better whipping and moral humiliation, ridicule evil. The probability of such actions is very high, parents can hear the same from the grown-up children. There are times when a child is naughty, shouting, food spills, etc. because: • It was very tired and wanted to sleep; • just woke up; • ill, but obvious signs of the disease have not yet seen; • experienced a lot of stress or injury (death, a terrible scene). In these cases, should not be punished. It is better to soothe the baby, put to sleep, hug, or to start treatment. In education it is important to respect for the individual, attention and desire to understand which form a relationship of trust and mutual love.