How to save a relationship after infidelity
The betrayal of a loved one is very hurt, perhaps, any person. He feels cheated, betrayed, humiliated, he can not trust a partner anymore. But if the guilty party sincerely repent of their deeds, you can try to save the relationship.
Instruction how to save a relationship after infidelity
Think that might push your partner to commit adultery. Perhaps, in your union you have a serious problem, since it took him a new sensation. Consider the events of recent days, weeks, months: Do not arise between you conflict, misunderstanding, has changed there something in your relationship.
Talk with your loved one what happened, listen carefully and let them know that even though it hurt you deep in your heart, you are ready to forgive him his act, but this will take time.
Assess the situation with the following positions: You have been together for a long time, during this time you have gone through a lot of good and bad, have been with each other in happiness and in sorrow, to cope with difficulties and happy moments enjoyable. Consider whether the fact of betrayal outweighs this joint experience.
If you and your partner are committed to maintain the relationship, try to perceive the treason as just another nuisance that you have overcome, and not to think about it later. Perhaps it will not be easy, but learn to trust each other again.
Not everyone has the strength to cope with the betrayal of a loved one. In this case, the aid will come therapist: contact them first separately and then together. In the West, this practice is widespread in Russia, however, is taking root, but gives good results, only to find the competent expert.
Do not take out what happened on the court of relatives, friends, acquaintances, co-workers: this applies only to the two of you, so you can just together to make the right decision about what to do next. If you have children, do not interfere with them in a showdown, and not manipulate them for their own benefit.
Try for some time to live separately from each other and not to meet. So you can symbolically complete life stage ended betrayal, turn the page, and then start a relationship with a clean slate: assign each other goodbye, give gifts and together build a new life.