How to learn to hold back the tears
Tears - a splash of our strong emotions. Many people do not like to see them crying because they do not want to appear weak. And, perhaps, anyone will be unpleasant to cry in front of an opponent or the abuser. use the proposed methods for these situations, allowing to learn to control her tears.
Instruction how to learn to hold back the tears
Abstracted from situatsiiKak soon as you feel that you have captured the emotions and tears ready to gush from his eyes, imagine that all of this unpleasant situation did not occur to you. Close your eyes. You are sitting in the cinema and watching a movie. Focus on the image. On the screen there is the same situation that just happened to you, but now you are not a participant in this situation, you - the audience, watching everything from the outside. Gradually color picture fades and becomes black and white, and then begins to decrease in size. Here it shrank to half of the screen, is now up to a quarter, and finally turned into a very small tochku.Danny method is based on the knowledge that we are crying because of emotional involvement in the situation. However, as soon as you stop taking the situation to heart and occupy the position of an outside observer, the tears themselves recede. The method tested many times and virtually trouble-free.
Pity the person who you obidelKogda offend us, we weep with self-pity. The essence of this method is to turn off the emotion. Think about why people hurt you. Perhaps he is doing much worse than you, and he's just jealous of you. Perhaps its just chided the chief and he felt fear and humiliation, which could not resist and picked on you. Even if you have no real excuse for a man you wronged, try to come up with them. The main thing now - to keep the tears, everything else you think then.
If tears are not the reason that you have been offended, but simply in the nerves, try uspokoitsyaSamy effective way - slowly count to 10, breathe it should be slowly while breathing deeply, and slowly exhale. When you slightly to the right with his nervous tension, drink some safe sedatives: valerian tincture or Leonurus.
What not to do in any event that the person you publicly ridiculed or offended some prickly phrase, even in private, and you can not find the answer, you can guarantee that in the next few hours, all that you do - to invent appropriate responses replica on the offender and ... crying. The fact is that as long as you return again and again to what has happened, you are emotionally fixated on this situation and feel anger at the offender law-governed and self-pity. It is not easy to deal with them, but it is better to postpone the consideration of what happened at least the next day when the most intense emotions already held. And come up with an adequate response is never too late!